And what did
all this cost me? My guilt. My fear. My pain.
My loneliness. Not bad for an old drunk, don’t
you think?
Ted
Grabowski is a 40 yr old attorney in northern
California.
With
positive memories of his Catholic upbringing,
Grabowski nonetheless came under the spell of
"science and philosophical materialism"
in his early adulthood, coming to believe "that
everything could be explained with physics and
brain science." He earned degrees in psychology
and philosophy before entering the practice
of law. Carl
Jung once said that for the first 35 years of
our lives we develop the ego, then spend the
rest of our lives getting rid of it. So it was
with me. It was not until I had reached that
magical age that the course would come into
my life and have a wonderful transformative
effect.
Of all the books
I read while getting my psychology degree, there
was only one psychology book that seemed to
touch me in an enduring way: Gerald Jampolsky's
Love is Letting Go of Fear. I
consistently found peace in applying its teachings.
At the time I did not know about the Course
or that Jampolsky was a student of the Course.
Not long after, I picked up Marianne Williamson's
A Return to Love and was overwhelmed by the
love and peace I found there. Thus
I became a serious Course student, reading the
text, doing the lessons, reading commentaries,
and listening to tapes. I was transformed by
the psychospiritual principles of the Course,
particularly the teaching that there are only
two emotions, love and fear. I softened and
experienced peace more often, coming to understand
in a very real way that anger is never justified.
I learned to listen for the still small voice
for God or love within me.
Mike
Gole has been an ordained minister for over
thirty years.
Marianne Williamson's
A Return to Love entered my life unwanted;
one of my book club memberships sent it to me
by mistake. It was one of those divine mistakes
that play so subtly into nudging one's life
path in a new direction. Although the book sat
on my shelf unread for a year, there came a
time when love seemed far away in my life, and
the words A Return to Love caught my eye. I
read the book cover to cover in a day and wanted
more. The more I was seeking I found in A
Course in Miracles.
As a student
and teacher of the Bible in a fundamental, evangelical
church, I found the Course felt like reading
a letter from an old friend. I experienced much
of the joy and confusion that I did when I first
started reading the Bible and started seeking
out the truths hidden there. Many
questions that had gone unanswered for years
started to vanish as I read the course, though
they were quickly replaced by many new questions.
An important difference was the way the Course
teaches its students to deal with unanswered
questions: the way of peace, a nonthreatening
approach to letting God be the teacher.
The Course asks
us to set aside all of our beliefs for a few
moments to allow God to teach us something for
the day. Such a simple shift in my own thinking
allowed me to enter into a whole new experience
of learning. After all, if I didn't like what
I was reading or practicing for those few moments,
I could go back to believing exactly the way
I did before. There was no fear that if I read
something disagreeable, I would be forever cut
off from God. The course gave me the grace and
freedom to set aside its teaching; it was a
wonderful freedom that no other teaching had
offered.
Now that I was
free from my past and the pull of my ego, the
Workbook lessons took on a life of their own.
I found myself spending as much as two to three
hours daily integrating the lessons into my
life, and the most amazing transformation took
place. Far from being frustrated by taking so
much time to work on lessons and read the Text,
I discovered that time was irrelevant to getting
certain daily tasks done.
Activities that
used to take several hours were completed in
just a few minutes. And activities related to
my ministry were seen with such clarity that
it became a joy to see God work them out with
such grace and peace. The most striking example
of this has been my experience with the Course
teaching of forgiveness. My years of church
service have been marred by seeing members attack
each other; splits and disputes seem common
to every ministry. Even with a primary message
of love from the Gospels, church members have
suffered many hurts from the inability to forgive.
I, too, had suffered
all my life with unforgiveness and bitterness
against those who had opposed my ministry or
gossiped behind my back. As I read the Text
and worked through the first fifty Workbook
lessons, I became convinced that forgiveness
was the only escape from this insanity. So I
started to experiment with forgiveness with
a person who had caused a division in my current
ministry.
The Course teaches
us that when we forgive our brothers, we are
also forgiving ourselves. If I see my brother
with no sin, I will see myself that way too.
It was a subtle shift in thinking for me, but
it is such shifts in thinking that the course
identifies as "miracles." And
what a miracle there was in store for me: A
few months after the person I was inwardly forgiving
had left the church, he suddenly appeared in
the parking lot after one of the services. We'd
had no contact since his departure. As I walked
toward him I was filled with love and joy for
him; all of the feelings of attack and hate
were gone and I saw him in his innocence. Without
a word I walked up and embraced him. We just
stood there holding each other; it was a wonderful
healing.