archetype is a collective human idea. The archetype of
marriage was designed to assist physical survival. When
two people marry, they participate in an energy dynamic
in which they merge their lives in order to help each
other survive physically. The
archetype of marriage is no longer functional. Marriage
is being replaced with a new archetype that is designed
to assist spiritual growth. This is the archetype of spiritual,
holy or sacred, partnership.
underlying premise of a spiritual partnership is a sacred
commitment between the partners to assist each other's
partners recognize their equality. Spiritual partners
are able to distinguish personality (ego) from soul
(spirit), and, therefore, they are able to discuss the
dynamics between them, their interactions, on a less
emotional-bound ground than husbands and wives. That
less emotional ground does not exist within the consciousness
of marriage. It exists only within the consciousness
of spiritual partnership, because spiritual partners
are able to see clearly that there is indeed a deeper
reason why they are together, and that that reason has
a great deal to do with the evolution of their souls.
Because spiritual partners can
see from this perspective, they engage in a very different
dynamic than do husbands and wives. The conscious evolution
of the soul is not part of the structural dynamic of
does not exist within that evolution because when the
evolutionary archetype of marriage was created for our
species, the dynamic of conscious spiritual growth was
far too mature a concept to be included.
underlying premise of a spiritual partnership is a
sacred commitment between the partners to assist each
other's spiritual growth.
makes a spiritual, or sacred, partnership is that the
souls within the partnership understand that they are
together in a committed relationship, but the commitment
is not to physical security. It
is rather to be with each other's physical lives as
they reflect spiritual consciousness.
bond between spiritual partners exists as real as it
does in marriage, but for significantly different reasons.
Spiritual partners are not together in order to quell
each other's financial fears or because they can produce
a house in the suburbs and that entire conceptual framework.
understanding or consciousness that spiritual partners
bring to their commitment is different, and, therefore,
their commitment is dynamically different.
commitment of spiritual partners is to each other's
spiritual growth, recognizing that that is what each
of them is doing on Earth, and that everything serves
that. Spiritual partners bond with an understanding
that they are together because it is appropriate for
their souls to grow together. They recognize that their
growth may take them to the end of their days in this
incarnation and beyond, or it may take them to six months.
They cannot say that they will be together forever.
The duration of their partnership is determined by how
long it is appropriate for their evolution to be together.
All of the vows that a human being can take cannot prevent
the spiritual path from exploding through and breaking
those vows if the spirit must move on. It is appropriate
for spiritual partners to remain together only as long
as they grow together.
partnership is a much freer and more spiritually accurate
dynamic than marriage because spiritual partners come
together from a position of spirit and consciousness.
Spiritual partners commit to a growing dynamic. Their
commitment is truly a promise toward their own growth,
to their own spiritual survival and enhancement, and
not to their physical.
partners bond with an understanding that they are together
because it is appropriate for their souls to grow together.
are certain growing dynamics that can occur only within
the dynamic of commitment. Without commitment you cannot
learn to care for another person more than yourself.
cannot learn to value the growth of strength and clarity
in another soul, even if that threatens the wants of
your personality (ego). When
you release the wants of your personality in order to
accommodate and encourage another's growth, you attune
yourself to that person's soul. Without commitment,
you cannot learn to see others as your soul sees them--as
beautiful and powerful spirits of Light.
as external power is no longer appropriate to our evolution,
the archetype of marriage is no longer appropriate.
does not mean that the institution of marriage will
disappear overnight. Marriages will continue to exist,
but marriages that succeed will only succeed with the
consciousness of spiritual partnership.
archetype of spiritual partnership—a partnership between
equals for the purpose of spiritual growth—is emerging
within our species.
is different from the archetype of marriage which was
designed to assists physical survival, and in which
the partners do not necessarily see themselves as equals.
The archetype of spiritual partnership reflects the
conscious journey of multisensory
humans toward authentic power.
partners recognize the existence of the soul, and consciously
seek to further its evolution.
recognize nonphysical dynamics at work within the world
of time and matter.
They see matter as the densest, or heaviest, level of
Light that is continually being shaped and reshaped by
the souls that share this sphere of learning. They
consciously cocreate their experiences with each other
and a compassionate Universe.
the archetype of spiritual partnership—of individuals
joined in equality for the purpose of spiritual growth—emerges
at the level of community, it creates values and perceptions
at that level that reflect those of the multisensory personality.
as individuals that bond in spiritual partnership and
choose to express their bond through the convention
of marriage infuse the energy of spiritual partnership
into the archetype of marriage, and thereby create new
values and behaviors within marriage, individuals that
join in spiritual partnership at the level of organization,
city, nation, race and sex infuse the collective consciousness
of these levels with the energy of spiritual partnership,
and create new values and behaviors at these levels.
evolutionary process that occurs at the level of the
individual is the same process that occurs at each level
of interaction between individuals. When an individual
invokes the energy of the archetype of spiritual partnership,
not only the partnership that it forms with another
individual is affected, but also its community, nation
and the global village. Your
decision to evolve consciously through responsible choice
contributes not only to your own evolution, but also
to the evolution of all of those aspects of humanity
in which you participate. It is not just you that is
evolving through your decision, but the entirety of
you wish the world to become loving and compassionate,
become loving and compassionate yourself. If you wish
to diminish fear in the world, diminish your own. These
are the gifts that you can give. The fear that exists
between nations is a macrocosm of the fear that exists
perception of power as external
that separates nations is the same that exists between
individuals; and the love, clarity and compassion that
emerge within the individual that chooses consciously
to align itself with its soul is the same that will
bring sexes, races, nations and neighbors into harmony
with each other. There
is no other way. Though each human being is responsible
for the quality of life that he or she personally experiences,
simultaneously that extends into the macrocosm.
threat of nuclear annihilation, for example, is a macrocosmic
idea or notion on our Earth, and it requires the complete
evolution of the microcosm in order for that to evaporate.
So long as those who strive to establish harmony at
the level of nations have within themselves the anger
and violence that they seek to heal between nations,
the harmony that they seek to create at the macrocosmic
level cannot come into being. What is in one is in the
whole, and therefore, ultimately, each soul is responsible
for the whole world.
is not until you have the courage to engage in human
relationships that you grow. When you commit to a spiritual
partnership with another human being:
live by the values, perceptions, and actions that
reflect equality with your partner and a commitment
to his or her spiritual development and your own.
begin to set aside
the wants of your personality (ego) in order to accommodate
the needs of your partner's spiritual growth, and, in
doing that, you grow yourself. That is how spiritual
begin to see that what is necessary to the health
of your partnership is identical with what is necessary
to your own spiritual growth, that each of you holds
the pieces that the other is missing.
begin to value your partner's contribution to your development.
You experience that his or her perceptions and observations
are helpful, and, indeed, central, to your growth, that
conversations between you stir deep waters.
learn the roles of love and commitment and trust in
making your partnership work. You
learn that love is not enough, that without trust, you
are not able to give and to receive the love that both
of you have for each other. You
learn to trust not only each other, but also your ability
to grow together. You learn that you put your partnership
most at risk by avoiding that which you are most afraid
will destroy it. It is not easy to express what is inside
you, especially that which makes you feel vulnerable
or painful or angry or upset. These are the emotions
that empower words that can do either damage or can
do so much healing.
learn that sharing your concerns with consideration
and the intention to heal and trust in the process is
the only appropriate avenue. As you approach your needs
with courage instead of fear you ignite a sense of trust.
The true human condition in its most perfect form has
no secrets. It does not hide, but exists in clear love.
learn the value of really listening, the value of considering
another's position. By becoming the other person, by
truly walking into the fears of the other and then returning
into your own being again, you open up the conversation
to transcend the personal and become healing at the
impersonal. This allows you to see each other as spiritual
playmates as you work through the areas that require
healing in each of you. Even into the toughest moments
of your work on feelings of insecurity you can be light
and remind yourself that you are spirits who have taken
on the physical experience and have far greater power
than you are showing in that moment of weakness.
partners see from the perspective of the impersonal
(spiritual), and they help each other see from that
perspective the meaning of their experiences. They
can laugh at the richness and the beauty and the playfulness
of the Universe. They
enjoy each other. They see the frustrations of the wants
of the personality for what they are, learnings, sometimes
great learnings, for the soul.
graduate of Harvard and winner of the 1979 American
Book Award in Science,
explains that we are evolving from a species that
pursues power based upon the perceptions of the five
senses, external power, into a species that pursues
authentic power—power that is based upon the perceptions
and values of the spirit. Using
his scientist's eye and philosopher's heart, Zukav
illustrates how the emerging values of the spirit
are changing marriages into spiritual partnerships,
psychology into spiritual psychology, and transforming
our everyday lives.